This is Bobby's family party!

Make sure your love is unconditional. Make sure you love people in all kinds of "weather". Or else what is the use if we love a person only when he is good or she is nice? When I need the people most thats when they leave me. All the time. So please, I hope you wont be like that. We always have to consider the other party, your companions situation and mood. Maybe hes in difficulty right now. Thats why his mood is not so sweet.

 

Maybe she has so much work to do and so many headaches, so she cannot be so darling like usual. That time is the time when we need to show our most noble quality, the way we want ourselves to be.

Its not that if you are sweet to that person then he will love you more. Maybe he will, maybe he wont. But that is not the point to be good and to be noble. To be good, to be noble is for ourselves because we choose to be that way, we want to keep being that way, and we feel good about it. Its not because, "Okay, now he needs me more. If I show more sympathy, then our love will be stronger"; Its not even to be considered.

But most of the time we fail the test. When people are in most difficulty, we just leave them, or we are cold and indifferent. "Oh, youre not nice to me. All right, all right.";"Youll come and need me soon."; Of course they will. When theyre in a better mood, when everything goes better, of course theyll come around. But then its too late. Then it is not love anymore. Its just a need for each other. Thats different, because you are used to each other and you need each other sometimes out of habit, out of convenience, out of financial security reasons -- anything. But its not true love.

True Love Always Prevails

True love is we stick together in "thick and thin";. Especially when its thin, when its troublesome. Then we should really bridge over the "troubled water". Thats what they say in English. But most of us fail the test, to ourselves, not to our partners. He might leave you, he might stay with you, because youre nice or not nice. But you fail yourself. You leave yourself. You leave the most noble being that you really are. So we should check up on this to our family members or whomever that is beloved and dear to us. Most of the time in critical situations, we just turn our backs and that is no good.

Of course we have our anger, our frustrations, because our partners are not as loving as usual, or whomever that is; but he or she is in a different situation. At that time, she or he is in mental suffering. Its just as bad or even worse than physical suffering. Physical suffering you can take a pill or you can have an injection and it stops or at least temporarily stops, and you feel the effect right away; or at least if people are in physical suffering, everyone sympathizes with them.

But when they are in mental anguish, and we pound them more on that, and we turn our backs and become cold and indifferent, that is even more cruel, even worse. That person will be swimming alone in suffering. And especially they trust us as the next of kin, the next person, the one that they think they can rely on in times of need; and then at that time, we just turn around and are snobbish, because they didnt treat us nice so we just want to revenge. Thats not the time. You can revenge later, when hes in better shape. Just slap him.

Actually, at that time, the person is not his usual self anymore. He was probably under very great pressure that he lost his own control. Its not really lost his own control, but for example, when you are in a hurry, your talk is different. Right? "Hand me that coat! Quick! Quick! Quick!" Things like that. But normally, you would say "Honey, please, can you give me that coat." Is that not so? (Audience: Yes.) Or when youre in pain -- for example stomach pain, heartache or whatever -- you scream loudly; and anyone who comes to talk to you, you dont talk in the usual way anymore, because youre in pain.

Similarly, when you are in a mental or psychological pain, you talk also in a very grouchy way, very cross. But that is understandable. So if we -- any so-called loving partner or family member -- do not understand even this very least, very basic concept, then were finished. Then we are really in a bad situation. Its not that the partner will do anything to us. Whether he does anything to us later or not, that is no problem. The problem is us. The problem is we degrade ourselves, that we make less of a being of ourselves than we should be, than we are supposed to be, or that we really are. So do not make less of a being of yourselves.

Bobbys words,

Love, to me, is as mysterious as poetry. What is love? love is a certain feeling.Love means pounding hearts and blushing faces. Love is devotion. Love is ...... This question seems to have no definite answers. Yet I think it is more important that we should learn to love. Everyone desires to love and be loved by others. We all hope that our life is full of love. That is the reason I share this passage with you. My brothers and sisters, let’s learn to love people in all kinds of weather.

 

翁帆和杨振宁的婚姻，在很多中国人眼中是不可思议的，两个人年龄相差太大，怎么可能产生爱情？难道是翁帆动机不纯，或是杨振宁太老了，昏了头。作为一个学外语的人，我觉得他们的结合很正常，促使他们在一起的真是那纯洁的爱情。很多人可能不同意我的观点。一个很偶然的机会我在网上看到了翁帆给杨振宁写的这封信，从字里行间中我们可以清晰地感受到翁帆那炙热的感情，在这里和大家来分享，不是想说服大家。不论你对他们的婚姻持什么态度，我们仅仅是把这封信当作一篇英文美文来欣赏吧。

    Cold here, icy cold there. You belong to neither, leaves have withered. Your face is pale and blue, a tearful smile. Something in your eyes, whispers words of last good-bye. My heart sinks down, tears surge out.
    Hot summer. Cheerful Cocktail. You took my hand. We fled into another world of band. You sat by my side, long hair tied behind, cool and killing. Smile floating on the lemonade, soft and smooth. How I was ?amazed. Your face looked like the cover of the magazine. My head spin. You led my hand, danced along the crazy theme.
    Light vied with wine, elegance mixed with fragrance, laughing covered by greetings, the crowed was busy at handshaking. You stood there, eyes on me. I trembled at the sparkles, brighter than the light. A masterpiece from God, I felt dizzy. We were not near, yet we were together. 
    Days ended. You said, you would wait for me at th e Alps side. We would ski against snowflakes dancing in the sky. I gave no answer but a good-bye to accompany your flight. Gone was the plane, I suddenly tasted my pain. I knew I had been silly and stupid, you were in my heart, I shouldn ’t have hidden in the dark. I tried to forget your disappointment. I made believe sometime someday, I would tell you, I feel all the same.

     My thought struggled at confessing, somehow hesitation ended in flinching. I continued my role of a fool, clinched to my maiden pride, yet secretly indulged in your promise of the white land -- snow measuring down to us, in your arms I am lifted up. The chiming of Christmas bell! 
     The bell died in the patter of rain, from hell came the laughing of Satan at my brain. Tearful smile, swallowed by the darkness. How could I trace your hair to wipe your tears? My hands reached out, catching nothing but a raindrop, on a leaf that had withered. Snowflakes have melted into water, we are no more together.

 

What Is English?  

English is an international language.

English is a powerful weapon.

English is a beautiful companion.

English is a useful tool.

English is not a headache.

English is not a burden.

  English is not a torture.

English is not a boring subject

English is exciting, charming, and challenging.

English is energizing, stimulating, and fascinating.

English is a piece of cake.

I can totally conquer English.

I will use English.

I will love English.

 I will live in English.

I am no longer a slave to English.

I am its master.

I believe English will become my faithful servant and lifelong friend.

I believe speaking good English will definitely change my life.

So from now on,

I will treat English as a friend.

I will enjoy every minute of mastering English.

I will look for every chance to speak English.

I will practice English as crazily as possible every day!

                                                                                                      (转自李阳的blog)